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Finding Your BeShert (Soul Mate) By Thinking Outside The Box

   Have you ever said, “it’s just so hard to meet a good handsome Jewish man who can make me laugh”?  Or even lamented that it’s difficult to meet any nice Jewish single men? I know I’ve talked to many of my single Jewish male friends who have told me it’s too difficult to meet single Jewish women. “Where are they all?” they ask me. Where are you looking I usually reply. They then go on to describe uneventful outings to the local dance clubs or singles dances. I asked them where else they look and usually get a vacant stare and shrugged shoulders in response.

   Someone once said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results! If you want to find your Beshert (Jewish soul mate) or perhaps a good normal person to date you might want to start “Thinking Outside The Box”!  This expression has been used in the business world to describe the process of widening ones perspective to find innovative solutions where you might not have looked before. This concept works well for us singles as well. Have you ever asked a newly married friend where they met their mate?  Very often what I hear is they met through mutual friends while at some activity.  Maybe they were bowling, at a class or at the beach but many people meet their mates while they are out enjoying life! Not a bad idea really.. hey, enjoy life and meet nice people!

   Finding your Beshert (Soul Mate) might well be a day at the beach! Grab a friend,a frisbee and a picnic and go to the beach. You will find that the more fun you have and the happier you are the more you will attract good people into your life.  Of course if you are looking for a nice Jewish Lifeguard or perhaps maybe a cute Jewish beach bunny you need to get noticed. Wearing a comfortable cotton T-shirt with the Jewish Single logo on it is certainly a good way to get noticed by your Jewish soul mate!.

Activities Outside The Box

  • Beach Frisbee
  • Softball at the park
  • Israeli folk dancing
  • Lectures on topics of interest to you
  • Golf lessons
  • Cooking classes
  • Crafts classes
  • Visit the library
  • Daily walk or jog at the mall
  • Political action groups
  • Organize a singles group at your Temple
  • Join an excersize class
  • Computer user groups
  • Visit the Museum
  • Are you a JDate Member?

Show Off Your Mug At The Local Coffee Shop

If you want to meet someone you need to think like that person. Where do they go?  What do they do during the day?  If they work and most of us do, do they take coffee breaks? Local Coffee houses have become very popular. I’ve often seen good looking business men and women sitting alone reading a paper at Coffee shops on their lunch breaks. Why not take your Jewish Single Mug and take your break there as well. You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to strike up a conversation with someone. Notice what they’re reading and comment on it perhaps. “Hey, have you noticed how coffee prices are getting higher but are break times are getting shorter”?  You’ll find something sincere to talk about.  Remember lines don’t work, being sincere and honest does.

Carry Around What You Need - Let Go Of The Rest!

We all carry around the emotional baggage of our past relationships to some extent. Perhaps we fear that our next partner will not measure up to our last love. Perhaps we fear that he or she will be just like our last love and break our heart again. Maybe we are afraid that we won’t be desirable enough for the man or woman of our dreams. All these cases have one thing in common... FEAR!  Basically there are two energies that drive our lives, fear is one and love is the other. The one thing to realize about fear is that in most cases it does not serve our needs. Sure its important to be afraid of some things so you don’t walk out into the middle of a busy highway for example or walk down a dark street in a bad neighborhood. But in an effort to protect us from pain, real or imaginary, our mind often uses fear to hold us back from living a full life.  One way to look at fear is that it stands for “F alse Evidence Appearing Real”.  The fear generated from painful relationship experiences in our past can be like heavy weights we carry around with us.  Weights which keep us waiting in the false security of being alone instead of wading into the nurturing waters of companionship. The way to deal with fear is to stay in the moment.  Tell yourself that the past is the past and all we have is the present moment.  All we can do with the past is learn from it. So if you are going to carry things around make sure it’s not your emotional baggage. Grab your Jewish Single Tote Bag and fill it with your hopes and dreams and love and you won’t have any room left for fear!